FORGIVING

WHAT

YOU

CAN’T

FORGET

By #1 New York Times Bestselling Author Lysa TerKeurst

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Discover How to Move On, Make Peace with Painful Memories, and Create a Life That’s Beautiful Again

ABOUT THE BOOK

You deserve to stop suffering because of what other people have done to you.

Have you ever felt stuck in a cycle of unresolved pain, playing offenses over and over in your mind? You know you can’t go on like this, but you don’t know what to do next. 

#1 New York Times bestselling author Lysa TerKeurst has wrestled through this journey. But in surprising ways, she’s discovered how to let go of bound-up resentment and overcome the resistance to forgiving people who aren’t willing to make things right. With deep empathy, therapeutic insight, and rich Bible teaching coming out of more than 1,000 hours of theological study, Lysa will help you:

  • Learn how to move on when the other person refuses to change and never says they’re sorry.

  • Walk through a step-by-step process to free yourself from the hurt of your past and feel less offended today.

  • Discover what the Bible really says about forgiveness and the peace that comes from living it out right now.

  • Identify what’s stealing trust and vulnerability from your relationships so you can believe there is still good ahead.

  • Disempower the triggers hijacking your emotions by embracing the two necessary parts of forgiveness.

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Forgiving What You Can’t Forget is also available in Spanish!

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WHAT OTHERS ARE SAYING:

“Lysa has been my friend for two decades. I trust her and so should you. I often tell her that she is a ‘Healer of broken hearts.’ In Forgiving What You Can’t Forget, Lysa walks with you like a friend who knows deep hurt, the burden of brokenness, and the heartache of betrayal. But most importantly, she knows the beauty and power of forgiveness. Let her guide and teach how to forgive so you can live again.”

Dr. Derwin L. Gray

Lead Pastor Transformation Church, Author of The Good Life: What Jesus Teaches About Finding True Happiness

“Vulnerable. Honest. Freeing. Lysa TerKeurst’s hope-filled words in Forgiving What You Can’t Forget are salve to our souls. This book reminds us that the power of forgiveness breaks chains off of us the moment we offer it and is a life-altering step we all desperately need. If you’re ready to move on with freedom and create a life that’s beautiful again, read this!” 

Louie and Shelley Giglio

Pastor, Passion City Church, Co-Founders of the Passion Movement

“Forgiveness is a biblical principle we know we should do, but why does it feel so hard to figure out when we’ve been deeply wounded and hurt? I’m really grateful for Lysa TerKeurst’s courage to walk with us and teach us not just from her experiences but from her vast theological and therapeutic research on what forgiveness is, what it isn’t, and how to realistically live this out. This resource is invaluable, and I pray it brings healing to your life like it has mine.” 

Craig Groeschel

Pastor of Life.Church and New York Times Bestselling Author

“God never wastes an experience. He is at work even in our darkest hour, when we choose to exchange for healing. Lysa reminds readers it’s not what we deal with but how we deal with circumstances that produces a redemptive message of hope for others—a truth poignantly reiterated in Lysa’s life and the pages of this book.”

Trudy Cathy White

Chick-fil-A Ambassador and Author of A Quiet Strength

“Forgiveness lived out can be one of the hardest things we do in life and Lysa has written a breathtakingly beautiful guide for us to maneuver the most painful parts of our pasts. She has walked this hard road herself and what God has done in and through her is nothing short of a miracle! You will find comfort, guidance, and HOPE on every page of this book.”

Jennie Allen

New York Times Bestselling Author of Get Out of Your Head, Founder and Visionary of IF:Gathering

“While there are many books on recovering from betrayal, hurt, and resentment, there isn’t a book that so exhaustively tackles the hard topic of forgiveness. Lysa so humbly lays out the importance and power of releasing ourselves by forgiving others. Forgiving What You Can’t Forget is quite possibly the most important book on forgiveness I’ve ever read. An ignored part of my heart was healed with every page and freedom was found through fighting for forgiveness.”

Bianca Juarez Olthoff

Speaker, Bible Teacher, and Bestselling Author of How to Have Your Life Not Suck

“This book is for everyone. Whether you’ve loved deep, experienced hurt, nursed wounds or avoided pain, you’ll find an honest guide in these pages. Lysa masterfully uncovers our own tensions by sharing so vulnerably about hers. Her encouragement helped me revisit my relationships, and take action to restore any places my heart was withholding forgiveness. This story is a healing balm for all who want emotional freedom. I couldn’t put it down.”

Rebekah Lyons

Bestselling Author of Rhythms of Renewal and You Are Free

ABOUT LYSA TERKEURST

Lysa TerKeurst is President and Chief Visionary Officer of Proverbs 31 Ministries and the author of eight New York Times bestsellers, including I Want to Trust You, but I Don’t; Good Boundaries and Goodbyes; Forgiving What You Can’t Forget; and It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way. She enjoys life with her husband, Chaz, and her kids and grandkids. Connect with her at www.LysaTerKeurst.com or on social media @LysaTerKeurst.

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